What are you settling for?

Henry Cloud has reminded me that we often put up with a lot of pain in the present (in relationships, in work, in life in general), “hoping” things will get better. Then we are surprised that months and years later we get more of the same.

He suggests this trick: Project what this relationship, situation, etc. will look like six months, one year, five years in the future, given a natural trajectory. Picture it. Feel it.

Then move on it. Make the necessary changes.

After all, before there were settlers, somebody had to move.